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Wednesday, March 30, 2011

5 signs a child is being sexually abused

This is an article for mature adults who have love for children. We need to protect our kids as much as possible. Sexual abuse can take place in any home environment, with any person.

This article will shine light on some of the signs that you can look for when you suspect that a child is or has been sexually abused.

Remember that just because a child is showing these signs, doesn't mean that he or she is actually being sexually abused. Let them be a warning and a reason for you to pay special attention to them.

Difficulty:
Moderately Challenging

Instructions

things you'll need:

  • lots of prayer
    • 1
      Acts out in a sexual manner:
      This is a very prevalent sign that a child may have been or is being sexually abused. If they talk about their privates or say things pertaining to sex in anyway is a definite sign. Take action immediately.
    • 2
      Seems distant or self-contained:
      They are shy acting when this is not their normal behavior. They may appear to stay in a fetal position a lot and have a sad look. They clam up easily. They are quiet and act frightened.
      Children who have been sexually abused (or abused in other ways) tend to have nightmares, as well. They may get up at late hours, have insomnia or they are scared to go to sleep.
    • 3
      Mistrust(especially in men):
      I say especially in men, because most pedophiles are men. However, there are women out there who have molested and raped children. A child who is being sexually abused will not trust easily. They will be frightened of certain things. They don't feel comfortable around certain people.
    • 4
      Low self esteem:
      Sexually abused children will have low self esteem. This is not to say that if your child does have low self esteem, he or she has been sexually abused. They may have compulsive disorders as well. One example may be over eating.
    • 5
      If you suspect that a child you care about has been sexually abused, pray about what to do. This can happen to any child in any walk of life. Statistics show that 40% of children are sexually abused in America. That is a horrid reality. I can't imagine that in a room full of children almost half of them have been sexually abused. It is time to do something about sexual abuse in our children.

Sunday, March 27, 2011


thank you to my mom, for taking the pictures for me....i love you!!




Friday, March 25, 2011

Why i want to be Mrs. Oklahoma Plus America........

Why i want to be Mrs. Oklahoma Plus America........Hi, my name is Debbie and I am the survivor of child sex abuse, i was abused by 2 family memebers and a friends dad for a total of 4 years, as a result i have suffered from different eating disorders from anorexia as a teen ager to over eating as an adult, when i finally admitted to myself that i needed help, i was in my 30's my weight and cholesterol were to high and my daughter turned 10 which is the same age i was when i first recall being abused.
it took 6 months for my insurance company to agree to therapy, i had to go through a battery of physical tests before they would accept that my weight issues were more than something physical.....i went to therapy for 1 year and in that time i made some progress,but then my benefits ran out.   I also decided that i had to do more, i needed to share my experience with others, after telling my family...."one of the hardest days of my life". I now am competing for the title of Mrs. Plus Oklahoma and hopefully Mrs. Plus america, i will use the title to accomplish some goals that i have set for my community, when i was looking for help there were no options other than to find a therapist. What about the people who have no insurance, or the means to pay for assistance. These are the people i want to help, there are no support groups in my state that i have been able to find, I want to help other adult survivors who are still struggling to recover from the abuse that they suffered like me, so that we to can begin to heal the abused child within.

Why i want to be selected as Mrs. Plus Oklahoma

If i am selected as Mrs. Plus Oklahoma i will work tirelessly with my local legislators to introduce and pass bills that protect our children from being sexually abused.  I would like to go into more schools and discuss Good touch....Bad touch, I would also use the title to start a state wide support group for adult survivors of child sex abuse...........did you know that

Thursday, March 24, 2011

Thank you to my sponsors in my quest to be Mrs. Oklahoma plus America

Thank you to my sponsors:

Mama Nila, for the beautiful jewelry.....

Secret Rose Photography 479-209-1518 or you can also find her on face book under Secret Rose Photography

Casi Bull independent Mary Kay consultant call her at
405-219-2298

Mandy's Munchkin's childcare center

Deb's Little Darlin's childcare center @www.debslittledarlins.com

M'lisa's Little Angels child care center @ MlisasLittleAngels.net

United providers family child care association @www.uproviders.com

Donna and Harry Walton(mom and dad)